Children are so picky these days, both of my nephews only buys from certain names, one of them buys from Pacific Sun only, the other one likes A%26amp;F, American Eagles. My 7 years old son demand his cloth to be bought in Gaps, he was asking for an iphone the other day ( he carries my husband%26#039;s old cell phone, incase there%26#039;s change in our schedules) I caught him bargaining with my husband, but really how do parents these day afford their life styles?
Everytime he get a good report card, he expect something from us|||I think that you are describing two spoiled boys, due to no other credit than yourselves! 7 year old with a cell phone? So what if its an %26quot;old one.%26quot; When they get %26quot;new ones%26quot; give back the old ones or cut the service to them. Gosh, this is why he%26#039;s asking for an iphone..he already has a regular cell phone. Kids will ask for more that what they have, but it%26#039;s the parents%26#039; responsibilty to teach them limits. You need to become the parent and put your foot down and start telling them they are going to get clothes where it%26#039;s affordable. And even if you have the money to shop there, it sounds like you%26#039;re not teaching your children the value of money and the responsibility that you carry to teach them to be good stewards of their money (possibly because you aren%26#039;t good stewards of your own own money??).
If you do try to change your ways and get back on the parenting track, then I would advise you to stay away from awarding good behavior with material items. Instead, if your children do good, or get good grades then the whole family can plan a special family outing or devote some one-on -one time for the reward. And if your nephews are coming to you for rewards, then be firm and do the same; reward with some activities instead of material items.
Here are some links below that perhaps will help you with budgeting your money and get you on the right track that material items aren%26#039;t eveything:
God Bless you!|||You tell them to get a job and pay for those things themselves if they want them.|||you learn to say the word ..........NO to your children when they demand unreasonable or expensive things|||Learn To Say NO! How old is he?|||He only does what he knows you will let him do. Put your foot down. Let him know that he isn%26#039;t the only one in the world and you have bills to pay and you have to feed him too. Don%26#039;t let him become the head of the household. You will be miserable if you do.|||grown ups make the rules.......that%26#039;s what makes us different from the children who follow them|||Tell her that when she is old enough to get a job, she can go wherever she wants and buy things. Until then, she%26#039;ll get what we give her. That%26#039;ll be the day that I bargain with my child.|||I took a lesson supernanny. I use tokens to award and disipline my kids. Tokens go towards purchases they want. It%26#039;s a lesson on the value of money as well as teaches how to save for what they really want.|||he is 7. he will wear what he is given. or he will be wearing a sore butt.|||Well...i feel a 7yr old should not know about brands....and i know at 7 its the parents who teach them...so if you put emphasis on brands then it will carry to your child as it has done! If my son happened to get like that i know how to say NO to him and i wont buy it...he can go w/out if he wont accept what i give him....my job as a mom is not to dress my child in expensive things its to give a nurturing, positive, loving environment and provid him w/ food, shelter, and clothing....that does not mean the most expensive stuff....My son may have name brand stuff, but only b/c i bought it on a sale rack or a yard sale! I dont emphasize name brand to my child and never will......|||well if all he has is what you let him have then he%26#039;ll have to wear it...I doubt hed run around naked!!|||You have to learn to say no.You don%26#039;t have to show your love for them by spending ridiculous amounts of money on them.I have no children(I am 18),but that%26#039;s what my parents did.|||You definitely need to sit down and explain finances. It doesn%26#039;t really matter if he doesn%26#039;t understand bills, etc... it%26#039;s the value of a dollar that he needs to grasp. That%26#039;s ridiculous and insane. He cannot expect you to buy him such things (like a $450 Iphone)- you just have to put the smack down! Your husband has to be in agreeance too, or the disciplining will never work!|||Your son is 7 years old, he is already brand conscious? and he wants an Iphone? ok, if this were my son, seriously, I would sit him down and tell him that he has a choice, he can either have the phone or he can get his clothes from good will and regarding the report card, well, I would tell him that I will discontinue the monetary rewards because even though I want him to do well in school if he doesn%26#039;t he%26#039;ll be held back a year and that he will not enjoy that, and it isn%26#039;t hurting you any for him to re take all his classes but him.|||Its like this, they don%26#039;t get it.
I have a 9 and 7 yr old. They would %26quot;love%26quot; to have all the cool things, and ya know they do, but, they work for it.
My 9 yr old, cleans, helps cooks, folds and puts away laundry, helps pull weeds etc.
My 7yr old, loads and unloads dishwasher, scrapes plates, mops, vacumes. etc.
They earn $5 a week. I take them to slackers they found a gameboy for $60. didn%26#039;t have enough money just so happend a girl had two and she was trading them in, we got both for $30. so what they had a scratch on the outside, they weren%26#039;t pink, but my kids are happy with them.
Everything they have, they work for. Nothing is just %26quot;given%26quot; to them. Those nephews of yours, will amount to nothing in life except loafers. Their mom and dad really need to put a stop to it now. There is not affording their life styles. Its kids need to accept how things are, they do NOT rule, parents do.|||Parents need to stand together on big issues. He is too young for a cell phone. Tell him when he%26#039;s a teen-ager you%26#039;ll discuss it.
Even if parents can afford the life styles, they shouldn%26#039;t give in to everything. Kids don%26#039;t need or want to be in charge. Step up to the plate.|||well tell them to get a job and buy them themselves but for now wear what i can afford and if u don%26#039;t like it tough crap as far as the report card goes with the good grade u can say great job honey we knew u could do it!!!hes 7 and has a cell phone hes already has one up on my 10 yr she doesn%26#039;t even have that.
normal parents that work a 40 hr a week job with bills cant afford those clothes my opinion yr only paying for the name A%26amp;F is way tooooo expensive
just remember u not giving in to his demands will make him a better man when he grows up and not a slacker and thinks that he only has to ask to get what he wants and u buy it . give him little jobs around the house and set an allowence to $5 per week and then let him but what he wants when he has the money he earned|||Your 7 year old is obviously in charge of your house right now. He needs to realize that he%26#039;s going to be leaving the house without clothes if he doesn%26#039;t wear what you buy him. He has no sense of fiscal responsibility and it%26#039;s probably about time to sit down and have a talk about it and his responsibilites to your family, and when he fulfills those responsibilities, he will receive his allowance. Spell out what exactly he is responsible for, and what you expect him to use his allowance to purchase. If he does not fulfill his responsibilities, he should not receive his allowance. He should not receive any awards for good grades, those are part of his familial responsibility, but he should have other chores around the house, like emptying the dishwasher, taking out the garbage, vacuming and dusting-along with keeping his room clean.
(An I-Phone for a 7 YEAR OLD???????????? Tell him how many weeks allowance he needs to earn to buy it without spending money on any necessities!)
You and your husband need to take back control of your house! You and he make the money, and pay the bills, and make the decisions-not your 7 year old!|||He is 7, and is asking for an iPhone? That is absolutely ridiculous.
Teach him to do household chores (to make YOUR lives easier) and pay him accordingly, so that he can save up for the things he wants. Unless and until he is ready to buy his own clothes, he wears what you buy him. And explain to him that no matter how much he %26quot;thinks%26quot; he wants something, some things (for example, iPhones) are just not reasonable.|||How did you and your sister-in-law/brother-in-law let your kids get so bad? Make it clear that since it is your money which you work for you choose where to spend it. They can start picking their store when they earn their own money. Also make it clear that your son does not get rewarded everytime for a report card because good grades are expected and not to be ALWAYS celebrated. A %26quot;good job%26quot; or maybe a special meal should be enough. It%26#039;s not parents these days, it%26#039;s whoever spoils their child. My nieces and nephews are very well behaved and don%26#039;t even know the name of the store their clothes are from. Sounds like people in your family are too materialistic. Your son should just be happy he%26#039;s got a cell phone period considering he%26#039;s seven.|||I think that we parents get our kids used to wearing expensive stuff then of course they%26#039;ll demand it when they get older. My son doesn%26#039;t really care but we don%26#039;t make a huge deal about buying him things from known brands. We do sometimes but it is not a must. As long as they are clothed and fed.|||that wouldnt be my son he is told you wear what we can afford and like it. your the parent put your foot down and your kids doesnt need any cell phone hes too young to be anywhere alone
this is your fault because you started it|||You need to start good money managment skills NOW! Hes 7 and already bargening..
Give him a weekely allowance ( I gave my kids 10 /wk)..anything that is not a neseccity that he wants,he will have to save and pay for....10/wk..heck,he%26#039;ll be able to get an Iphone in a few years!..Its not okay for him to demand what kind of clothes he is going to wear..once he learns the concept of money and how it is earned and saved,he will understand the reasond why walmart is so much better then the mall..lol And DO REWARD EXTRA for good report cards..you want to encourage this now,so he has a good concept of why he wants to get good grades.... 20$ for each A, and 10$ for each B is how we did it,but you can do any varieation....We never rewarded c%26#039;s or below..and our kids kept themselves on the honoroll..they knew they could get an extra 120 bucks every few months if they kept up the good. food work..you dont have to use money though..you can have him pick out a toy that he wants out of the sunday paper,and hang the picture of it on the fridge..and tell him %26quot;If you get ___ A%26#039;s,mommy will get you this toy%26quot;..that way he has SOMETHING to work for....at his age..if there isnt some light at the end of the tunnle,its not worth it.|||You needed to say the word NO when he was a year old.
He is old enough to have a allowance and if he saves money, he can buy small items. This gives him a sense of the value of money. You keep giving him things, you are the looser right now and both of you will loose big time as he gets older. What I am trying to say is, teach him the value of money. He needs this in order not to over spend in later childhood years and his adult life.|||Sounds just like my oldest...she%26#039;s 7 too and will not wear anything but Limited Too which is horrible because she%26#039;s really small and the clothes practically fell off of her all last year!! She too has a cell phone, it%26#039;s only an extra 9.99 a month and she doesn%26#039;t really waste any of our minutes because she really has noone to call, but it made me feel better knowing she has easy access to a call for help in an emergency. My 5 year old son has a firefly cell phone, i programmed in all the numbers he is allowed to call and it is really cheap, but again it gives me peace of mind! They too constantly bargain with me even though they don%26#039;t realize it, like when i tell them to eat there vegetables, they make offers like if i only have to eat half of them i will clear the table! At the end of the day though i feel better with myself knowing that i told them no to at least one thing they wanted during the day and as long as they know i am in control i think it%26#039;s harmless! So i suggest you tell him no once in a while and it will make you feel better! As for the clothes....i try and trick my daughter sometimes!! Especially with bathing suits because Ltd2%26#039;s are sooo expensive! Anyways i cut the tags off of her outgrown limited too clothes and sew them on before i give it to her, she then thinks its from there and she will wear it!|||I would tell our daughter that she can buy what she likes, so long as she pays the difference. When we would buy school clothes, we would alot the amount of money it would take to buy the clothes at Target or Wal-Mart. If she wanted something different, she would have to fund the difference. Needless to say, her tastes in clothing brands changed rather quickly. Don%26#039;t be suckered into feeling guilty. Not EVERY kid wears name brand stuff. Don%26#039;t believe it? go to a mall on a Saturday. You will see SOME kids with the pac sun and holister clothes, but not all and probably not more than 35%. Don%26#039;t buy into the costly brand name clothes.|||Wow, I wonder what you%26#039;ve taught him. You know a lot of times when our children act like this it%26#039;s really hard to acknowledge that we are actually the problem. My son is nine and would never ask me for such things. How can you allow your seven year old child to have a sell phone. I do award my son good report cards but I reward him with things that make common sense. For example last year he won author of the month. So I bought him things to encourage hime to write. When he won reader of the month we bought him books. I would never reward him with clothes. I think that%26#039;s just asking for trouble. I know for a fact my son%26#039;s class mates don%26#039;t wear those kinds of clothes and neither does my son.|||The greatest and longer lasting gift you can teach your children is about finances and what it takes to live in today society. Other than saying no, set up a bank account for them, and then set allowance limit for grades/chores/etc. If they want something that you deem unreasonable, make them save up for it with their allowance. That way it will make them think twice if they really want it, and hopefully make them respect their stuff more. They probably won%26#039;t like the idea, cause that means they will have to wait for their %26quot;now%26quot; wants, you will have to be strong and turn deaf ears, which will be hard, I know. Good luck!|||first off...how does your 7 year old now what gap is?? at his age the only store he should be aware of is k-bee toys or something like that? second...an iphone?? no offense, he sounds spoiled and maybe its the lifestyle you live...if your whole focus is around material things it will def rub off on your kids|||Your 7 yr old son DEMANDS clothes and cell phones???
Girl, it%26#039;s time to start acting like an adult. Say it with me now
%26quot;NO%26quot;
%26quot;NO%26quot;
%26quot;I will not buy that for you%26quot;
%26quot;NO%26quot;
If he%26#039;s like this at 7 and you give in you will have one heck of a teenage horror on your hands.
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